Good morning and happy Monday, friends! :)
This rainy weather is actually exactly what I needed to wake up to after the beautiful weekend we just had. Although I wore sunscreen all weekend (pinky promise!!), I’m a little sunburned and ready to be productive inside today.
Last night, I was watching Keeping Up With the Kardashians (don’t judge), and Scott mentioned that he always feels like he needs to go out and socialize with people because he has F.O.M.O.
F.O.M.O?
Fear Of Missing Out.
That made me think. Yes… something about the Kardashians actually made me use my brain. This past weekend was spent in the sun with my husband. Not friends, not family… just me and Bobby.
Saturday we woke up early, packed some snacks, and headed down to the beach.
After the beach, we stopped for a cocktail and some snacks before heading back to Hoboken (crossing things off my Summer Bucket List already!!).
Sunday morning we got up early, went to church, got a great workout in, and decided we couldn’t waste another beautiful day indoors. We headed to the Pier for some more sun and relaxation!
After we’d had our fill of Vitamin D for the weekend, we stopped for an early dinner before heading home for some couch-time.
A year or two ago, this weekend probably would have given me anxiety.
“What are my friends doing?”
“Am I missing out on something fun?”
“They are probably having such a great time together and I should be there.”
“What if something really funny happens and I’m not there to see it??”
Or, as Scott Disick puts it…. F.O.M.O.
Up until recently, I had F.O.M.O., and I had it bad. Any time people were getting together, I needed to be there. I didn’t want to miss out on the fun!
This weekend I knew some friends were getting together though. I had the option to join them… but the truth was, I didn’t want to. I love my friends more than life itself, and Bobby and I are very social people, but we needed downtime. We needed to have no plans.
We needed a whole weekend to ourselves to do whatever we wanted… which included a whole lot of awesome quality time with each other. 
It was the perfect weekend with my amazing husband, and not once did I have any inkling of F.O.M.O.
Dare I say…. I’m cured?
Do you (or did you ever) suffer from F.O.M.O??
How did you spend your weekend?
Does anyone else kinda like Scott this season? In the past, I couldn’t stand him, but recently he cracks me up.
I KNEW this was a Scott ism when I read the title! You’re not alone in your trashy E! shows
I used to have FOMA too, but I rarely do anymore. Especially on the weekends, when I really need to catch up on sleep/life … it doesn’t matter what my friends are doing anymore. For my well being, I need to worry about myself and take advantage of downtime. And I really have learned to enjoy the time by myself!
ps … cute bikini. In the least creepiest way possible
Hahaha thanks, it was a recent Target purchase!
And I agree, I think that now that I have a real job (well, not during the summer… but still…), it takes a lot of pressure off going out on the weekends constantly. Sometimes I just need to relax and catch up on sleep!
I used to suffer from it a couple of years ago. There were certain people (close to us) who liked to broadcast their outings without us and it hurt my feelings. It took me a while to get over it, but eventually I did. I think it’s a fairly common thing, and it’s funny because I read an article about it on Saturday!
Sounds like a fun weekend!
I’m glad you are cured from the FOMA disease too!
It makes life much happier!
I can totally relate, I definitely suffer from that especially when I feel uncertain in my current situation. Jealous you got some beach time!
Totally agree Alex… if I’m unhappy with different situations I find myself more insecure about missing things!
Your weekend sounds pretty great!
Time with Bobby and just doing WHAT you wanted to do WHEN you wanted to do it- it makes the world of difference- super relaxing, I’m sure. YAY!
Oh college days were the worst for the fear of missing out- I just had so much to do and so many social groups to be a part of and to enjoy- memories to be made everywhere!….Now that I’m old(er) I miss out on everything and I’m okay with it. My social group is MUCH MUCH smaller (due to my teeny-tiny town, I’m the only female under 25 that isn’t in high school in town! for real!) There really is nothing to miss out on but I’m evolving to a new phase of life anyway.
Only female under 25!?! That IS small!! I feel like even in big cities though, as we get older our social groups get much smaller… which I’m totally ok with!
Sounds like a lovely weekend. I definitely know what you’re talking about! Since transitioning from college to the post-grad life, I had my fare share of feeling like I was missing out. It’s so hard to constantly balance that life with your friends and your significant other. My boyfriend and I are moving in together in about a month and I’m really looking forward to it, but with our busy lives, I know we still won’t be spending as much quality time with each other as we’d like. I definitely feel like I’ve let go of a lot of the missing out feelings. I know my friends are there, and it’s okay if I don’t go to every function, dinner, meet-up. If I need time for me or time for me and my man – I’m going to take it.
Congrats on moving in with your BF! How exciting!!
You have a great attitude about doing what you can, and keeping the important things in mind!
I think your weekend sounds awesome. I love having low key, relaxing weekends with my boyfriend. It might help me to suffer from a little bit of FOMA because then I might feel more inclined to spend nights out on the town! Most weekends I’m an old lady and am content to stay in.
Yes!! Low key, relaxing weekends are the greatest!
First, love that new bathing suit! So cute.
I definitely experience those types of feelings a lot in college – I’m not HUGE on going out (I like it sometimes, but I’ve never been able to handle going out Thursday, Friday, AND Saturday) and when I stayed home, I always felt a little like I was missing out on everything my friends were doing, especially if they posted pictures on facebook. I still experience it sometimes, but felt it the most in college!
Thanks for the compliment!
And yes… I agree… I had that feeling much more when I was in college. I wanted to be everywhere with everyone at all times! It’s much nicer to be able to enjoy relaxing weekends like this one now!
Umm, I kind of love Scott lately haha. He’s hilarious! I’ve never really suffered from FOMO, I’ve always enjoyed my downtime, and find that I really need it! Without it, I get a little overwhelmed and stressed about having so much to do. Sounds like you had a perfect, relaxing weekend.
I get that overwhelmed, anxious feeling when I have too much going on, too! It helps to have weekends like this one!
I wrote a post about FOMO a while ago! My two best friends always tease me because with the 3 of us, I totally have FOMO (slightly kidding.) Like, when we have weekends together, and say, I want to take a nap – I’m like “DON’T HAVE ANY FUN WITHOUT ME!” As if while I’m napping in the other room for 30 minutes, the circus is going to come to town
Yes! I’m the same. I just don’t want anyone to have fun without me (selfish? yes). And you never know! The circus MIGHT come, and then it will be all that they can talk about but you will have totally missed out just because you took a little nap. I hear ya….
Yes I used to have FOMO big time. I was out every night and weekends were jam packed…essentially I forced myself to go to every single thing I was invited to. Eventually, I got super burnt out, stopped enjoying it, and now I totally appreciate my chill time “missing out”
I need my down time too, otherwise I get super stressed and burned out!
Ha!! I love that. I kind of don’t have FOMO since I’m kind of an introvert, but I get it!!!! I have a friend who does, and she’s a Kardashian lover. I should send this to her.
Hahah def share it with her!
I think I’ve tamed down on FOMO since my boyfriend Kyle and I started settling down a little more!
YES! I used to have this BAD and I totally burned out. My husband had kids pretty early (and when we were really young) so a lot of our friends kind of fell away and then it was just our little family. I’m pretty much the opposite now, it’s harder to get me to go out
I have FOMO when I’m home for the summer and not at school..i’m trying really hard to just live in the moment and be content with a relaxing summer but I’m not going to lie its really difficult..its definitely a hard transition from being away at school to coming back home for the summer!
scott has been seriously annoying me though so far this season..i really wonder if they will last together!
I used to suffer from FOMO too, especially in high school and college, but I think graduating from college cured me! A lot of my friends moved away or moved on to bigger and better things, and I had to learn to rely on myself, and only my closest friends and family. I’m perfectly fine with doing nothing now, because sometimes that’s exactly what I need!
Also, love your bathing suit!!
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